Three Year Glitch

So, I'm not normally someone who watches the news. Ever. I tend to get my news from social media sites. News is just so sad and depressing, I tend to ignore it. So until it shows up on my Facebook feed, I'm clueless.

But I had to get my oil changed this morning, so I was at the dealership, and the news was on. And they were doing a story called the "Three Year Glitch." They referenced the movie "7 Year Itch" but since I've never seen it, I couldn't tell you what it's about. 

But the idea behind the story was that for the first 3 years of your marriage, you're in the "honeymoon" phase. So everything is shiny and happy and your husband can do no wrong. But once you hit 3 years, all the little things that were so adorable in the beginning, all turn annoying, and even the sound of their loud, annoying breathing makes you see red.

Less compliments. More complaints. 

It's inevitable that your relationship is going to evolve. You add a kid, a dog and a mortgage to the equation, and your relationship changes. That's life. I don't think a time frame matters. The effort matters.

It made me think of an article I read yesterday (on facebook of course, LOL)  called "Ten Things I Don't Want to Hear My Husband Say". I won't copy them here, but you can click the link and read it.

Basically, it talked about what she doesn't want to hear. Her husband's bathroom habits, a dirty joke he heard at work, etc. And while I'm sure she loves her husband, she obviously wrote it with a sense of humor. Perhaps a bit more negative than I like to be, but hey. But after reading through the comments, oh my gosh. 

So of these women are brutal! Seriously. Bitches. Basically saying that she should obviously get divorced if she's that miserable, that her husband should hire a lawyer and save himself from having to be married to such a complaining, nagging shrew. Do people not have a sense of humor anymore?

People complain. They vent. That's life. Perhaps it was a bad day. PMS.

Some of the 10 things I agreed with. 

I agree that I don't want to hear about bathroom habits. Thank you for sharing, but I feel like someone else with a Y chromosome can better appreciate that.  Is our marriage forever doomed? No. But if I can't even remember to close the bathroom door when I have to pee, the least I can do is smile and nod when hubby tells me that he pooped twice today.

And some I didn't agree with. If I "slave all day making a hot meal" and it totally sucks, then nicely tell me so I won't waste my time again, and then take me to Cici's. Cause, yeah,  I probably don't want to eat my sucky meal either.

And when she said that she doesn't want to hear about his headache or his throat ache, and he should call his mom. Big negative on that one. I want to know if my hubby isn't feeling well. Isn't that part of being married? To commiserate? Plus, if you're all trying to kiss on me, I'd like to know if you have a sore throat so I can pop some vitamin C.

And of course, there was the random liar commenter who said that their husband ALWAYS helps out around the house, their marriage is always wonderful, they have NO complaints at all. Blah blah blah. If your husband NEVER does anything to bother you, then consider yourself lucky that you're married to a robot and you better hope his batteries don't run out, or you'll actually have to live with a "real" husband like the rest of us, and put up with some annoyances every now and then.

It's like what I said in Operation: Better Wife.  People get lazy. It's easy to throw that hair in a pony tail, take a baby wipe to the armpits and rinse with some mouthwash and call it done.

Maybe the news struck me because Jake and I will be coming up on 3 years this April. We work really hard on our marriage. We do things to strengthen our marriage, like take a seminar every year called "Marriages That Last" but that's a blog post for a different day. And we still go on date nights. And maybe one of these days I'll actually shut the bathroom door when I pee.

I don't feel that there is a "Three Year Glitch".  I hope not. I mean, this is the man who held my hair back during all the days of morning sickness, and helped me use the restroom after my different surgeries over the years. The least I can do is fight every urge not to smother him with a pillow every time he forgets to turn off the closet light.

I'm sure I do things to annoy my husband. And I'm sure that if he thinks really hard, he might eventually be able to come up with one or two things to complain about. :)



So what do you think? Is there such a thing as a 3 Year Glitch? If you read the article, did you agree it was an attempt at humor? Or whining and bitching from a doomed marriage?