Wednesday, May 25, 2011

You mean you have to work at your marriage?

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I know I wasn't the only one who was totally shocked by the Arnold Schwarznegger love child scandal, right? Seemingly perfect marriage, great kids, tons of money. It seems like you can't open a gossip magazine or get on facebook without reading about who's been caught cheating, who's admitted to cheating, who might be cheating. Tiger Woods, Jesse James, Jude Law, the list goes on... Just goes to prove that money isn't the answer to everything. Money can't buy a great marriage.

I've been very blessed in my marriage. I married a man who does the big things, like proposing in a hot air balloon and accepting and raising my two girls as his own. And the little things, like leaving little loves notes around the house for me to find and putting the parrot in his sleep cage when I'm too tired.

I have no complaints about my marriage. I can count on one had the number of big fights we've had in the past 4 years. We attribute it to both of us constantly working on our marriage. Date nights without the kids, going to marriage workshops, playing cards at night and having great conversations.

Marriage is work. And it's hard. So when you find something to makes it easier, it's worth checking out, right?

Have you heard of TwoofUs.org? It has a wealth of information about relationships. Everything from tips on keeping your relationship fresh to videos and articles. And, there are articles about addiction, jealousy, infidelity... it's got it all. And it's not just for us old married folks. Dating? Engaged? Pre-wedding jitters? Is your relationship moving too fast? Too slow?

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One of the videos I watched featured Harper Hill. He talked about communication, and ways to work at it. One idea he had was to have a party or get together, and have each person write down a relationship question and toss it in a hat. Then one at a time, a question is drawn, and that opens up some great discussions.

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So, do you have any helpful marriage advice? Tips on making things work? Things you keep in mind when things get tough?

For us, one of the rules we use in our marriage is to never say "always" or "never".

"You NEVER take out the trash." " You ALWAYS forget to pick up the dry cleaning." Because, that's not true. Your hubby might forget to pick up the dry cleaning half of the time, but you've just disregarded the times that he's picked it up. I think simple things like that go a long way.

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Rhiannon said... [Reply to comment]

i agree marriage takes work and weve been hard at work for 10 years now. I like your advice to not say never or always thats a big one in my book and drive me nuts and makes the arguement worse!

Jen Taillac said... [Reply to comment]

Love the "always" and "never" rule!

Party of Five said... [Reply to comment]

I love this! And I feel exactly the same way. Other than putting God first in our marriage, one advice I would have is to focus on the other person's love language rather than your own. It's easy to say "Well, I'm not going to do {this} because he doesn't do {this} for me." Marriage is about being selfless, not selfish. Whatever your partner's love language is, meet it. No matter what. If you do that, yours will get met, too. But that's just a bonus over giving your partner the gift of love they deserve. That's my two-cents. Love you!